Jealousy in a relationship can cause many problems but some people just have no idea how to deal with jealousy. Some people can become irrationally jealous of their partner to the extent that they don’t want to let them out of their site. They don’t like their partner to even talk to or look at another woman or man or they become extremely jealous. The partner on the receiving end of this jealousy may become tired of it, although flattering at first; it can cause a relationship to fall apart.
Here are three tips to help you learn how to deal with jealousy before it tears your relationship apart.
First you have to learn not to let the jealousy get to you. I know this is much easier said than done but there are ways to work on this so it becomes easier. If you don’t trust your partner then jealousy is quite a normal response but you need to ask yourself why you don’t trust him.
Has he cheated on you before? Do you know for a fact that he has cheated or do you just suspect it? Has he given you reason to suspect he is cheating? You need to find out whether you have a valid reason for not trusting him.
If you have no real reason for not trusting him then ask yourself why it is that you don’t trust him. Do you have a fear of him cheating? Have you had someone cheat on your before so you distrust men in general? If he has never done anything to lose your trust then you need to work through why you don’t trust him and learn to trust him.
If you have a valid reason not to trust him, perhaps he has cheated on you before, then you need to think about whether you should still be with him. If you have forgiven him for cheating and agreed to take him back then it can be difficult to regain that trust, but if you want the relationship to work then you need to work at rebuilding trust.
If you have been trying for a long time to rebuild the trust but just can’t get past his cheating then perhaps this relationship has run its course and you should move on.
Whether you trust your partner or not, if he flirts with other people do you think he is going to cheat? If not then why are you jealous?
Jealousy is really only a response to a threat but if that threat becomes real and your partner flirts with someone and then cheats on you with that person, then the threat goes beyond jealousy and into betrayal.
The second way to help you deal with jealousy is to learn for your partner to flirt all they want and not let it get to you. Try to view flirting as a natural response that people have toward other people that they find attractive. Even when your partner flirts with other women he still chooses to be with you so you actually have no reason to be jealous of flirting knowing that you are the person he chooses.
The third way to deal with jealousy is to use it to your advantage in a relationship. If you do this though you do need to be careful that it isn’t taken too far. Showing a little possessiveness is actually enjoyable for some people and can add a spark to a relationship.
By dealing with jealousy this way it doesn’t make you angry but instead makes both of you happy. If jealousy is a real problem though then you do need to take steps to learn how to deal with jealousy more effectively.